If this happens, you’ll be very glad you read this and paid attention because you will have been smart enough to keep your heart and your life safe. If you are still really excited and happy about them, great! Pay attention to these things and start asking yourself, “if this never changes will I still want this person? And maybe you will find yourself in a real relationship that can last and grow instead of saying good-bye in anger or hurt at the end of another long-term, short lived one. Coach Stanlee also specializes in guiding Mid-Life Women through the transition into the best years of their life.”As the 90 days comes to an end, you may find you can’t figure out why you were so attracted to this person anymore. So, you plunge in and hopefully use protection, but is that enough?Are you going to wind up getting hurt and broken hearted anyway? How do you follow your “heart” (hormones really) and still be smart?
You’re more sophisticated than that, so just be aware that your own chemical responses are leading you astray and don’t mistake these feelings for real love or a soul mate connection.
It takes time to know someone and many different shared experiences, so just hang on and enjoy this fun time of getting to know each other and try to stay aware that that is what’s going on. In these first 90 days, the biggest thing going on is the clouded attempt to make you like each other. Enjoy all the flowers and lovely dates and long talks.
Spend time together doing as many different things as you can think of. Think of different endearing ways to admire and appreciate each other but don’t say I love you, don’t move in together and don’t make any long term commitments.
Meet each other’s friends and try to pay attention to them, they will tell you a lot about your new love. I mean, really, would you loan your car to someone to drive out of state with that you had only known 6 or 8 weeks?
Meet each other ‘s family’s if that’s on the agenda for you and don’t sweat about it. Your heart and your life are far more precious than a car. This is why many generations have advised not being sexual too quickly or spending too much time together in the early days.
If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner.