While finding one’s tribe may be the underpinning of dating success, certain factors make it more likely to happen in some places than others.
Neighborhoods popular with singles tend to have comparatively affordable housing, convenience to transportation and a good assortment of bars and restaurants — think Astoria in Queens and Murray Hill and the East Village in Manhattan.
Y., where she’d spent most of her life.“I thought, ‘This is going to be my golden ticket! Instead, meeting people in person was “near impossible,” she added.
“And I consider myself a social person.”Though not opposed to online dating, she felt out of place in family-friendly Washington Heights and found her forays to Midtown and Lower East Side bars disappointing, the men standoffish.
The New York neighborhoods with the highest ratio of single women to single men, ages 20 to 34, are the Upper East Side (0.6 men to every woman), Murray Hill (0.68), the Upper West Side (0.79) and Brownsville, Brooklyn (0.8) according to 2014 data from the American Community Survey compiled by the city’s Economic Development Corporation.
Neighborhoods with the highest percentages of single men tend to be immigrant communities, according to a researcher at the development corporation — Elmhurst/South Corona, Queens has the best odds for women in the city, with 1.57 men to every woman; Jackson Heights/North Corona is a close second at 1.54 men to every woman.
Rosenfeld, a Stanford University sociology professor who researches how couples meet, said that meeting in the neighborhood, along with meeting through family, friends, co-workers, school and church, had declined since the 1990s, largely because of the rise of online dating.
“Neighborhood still matters in lots of ways, at least for people who have a choice of where they live, which is not everybody,” he said.
In Manhattan, she said, the men she met through apps would boast about being a top person at a place like Oracle, the high-tech company.“Now I’m into the kind of guy with facial hair who wears a leather bracelet and goes salsa dancing,” she said.Zamor’s mother, a nurse, and father, a psychiatrist, emphasized the importance of marrying a man whose education and aspirations were similar to her own.She likes that on dating apps like Soul Swipe, Tinder and Plenty of Fish you can easily find out where someone went to school, what he does for work, and where he lives — which she views as important indicators of compatibility.“It’s full of people who are like-minded: creative, well-traveled, educated, curious,” she said.“I would say 75 percent of the people are people you’d swipe right on.
Not all of those men are looking for women — Jackson Heights has grown increasingly popular with gay men.