First, the man should initiate asking the woman out.
Whether this means approaching the woman herself or her father or someone filling that role instead of her father, it should be the guy that starts things off.
Finally, let me advocate the initiating of a relationship under some accountability structure.
I mentioned the woman's father or family because until the second half of the 20th century, that's largely how it was done.
See what an unsatisfying bumper-sticker treatment that was? Among the different roles assigned to men and women in the Bible, men are assigned the role of leadership. This is not a signal of male superiority or of the greater importance of men.
It is simply God's design and assignment of equally valuable roles among spiritually equal beings. Briefly, biblical support for this position is found, among other passages, in the creation order in Genesis 2, in 1 Corinthians 11: 7-9, and Ephesians 5.
As a quick aside, if you are a single man and you would not describe yourself as ready to be married within a year, think about why that is.
Certainly, this norm spread beyond the believing community and became more of a cultural phenomenon, but it still gels well with attempts to carry out a godly dating relationship — especially among those believers who hold a complementarian view of biblical gender roles.Ultimately, this means learning to trust God's goodness and sovereignty.Clearly, this is not the popular secular view of the "liberated" woman's role.If you aspire to be a godly husband or wife someday, what have you done and what are you doing to prepare for that ministry?Second, are you at a place in your life at which you are ready and able to marry?
Hollywood's perfect woman runs with the boys, knows what she wants and is aggressive en route to getting it — especially romantically. "What if I'm really interested in a man and he just isn't getting it and I need to move him along? When men drop the ball on leadership (as we often do), it presents a temptation for the woman involved to pick up the reins and lead for him. Picking up the reins sets a terrible pattern that only confuses the roles in the relationship and encourages both of you to take the role of the other to the detriment of the relationship and ultimately the marriage. If it doesn't work out with a particular guy because he didn't step up, the Lord will cause something else to work out.