The real “danger” of love between a Chinese woman and a foreign man is that it doesn’t ultimately go anywhere, the women I talked to said.
The opposing political views of May Xu, 24, who works for a Spanish head hunting firm in Shanghai, and her Spanish ex-boyfriend, who she met at work, were reflected in just one sentence.
A recent Chinese propaganda campaign about national security uses a comic called “Dangerous Love” to warn Chinese women not to date foreigners.
Li, a college graduate who works for the government, meets red-haired, beak-nosed David, who claims he is an academic, at a friend’s gathering.
The latest data, from a 2010 population census, shows more than 600,000 foreigners dwell in China, and 56% of them are male.
But while dating seems to be on the rise, marriage is still unusual—thanks to political differences that are often irreconcilable, according to the women I spoke to, who were all between 21 and 25, prime age to start looking for a husband in China.
Chinese dating is just as confusing, and wonderful, as any other type of dating.
The relationship lasted for just six months, because Jean found they “couldn’t communicate” because of their “different standpoints.” Jean’s ex-boyfriend was nine years older than her, and a graduate student in international relations at another Beijing university.For Chinese people who want to meet others from the same ethnic background, Internet dating sites can help.As with any culture, not everyone from China shares the same beliefs.Still, there are some attitudes about dating that are common among the Chinese. In the United States, we're used to the idea that we make our own choices about whom we date and whom we marry.But in traditional Chinese families, the parents may expect to have a say.
She said her current boyfriend is “too young, too naive” (a reference to a 2000 press conference in which former Chinese president Jiang Zemin criticized a reporter who asked a tough question) thanks to the “one-sided” China news he learned from western media.