You see, I've always had this two year rule in my mind for how long I want to date someone before we get married. After twenty-four months together, you usually know whether your partner is someone you could really commit to—forever.But a lot of my friends have been getting married with fewer than this magical two years under their belts, and it's making me second-guess my rule. Does it really matter at all how long you date before you get married?While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.It might work out okay if they are exceptionally well-matched and mature.But it takes time to know a person and time to see each other’s darker side and know how each of their 'shadow' sides will interact with each other."A cautious one to two years may be the recommended amount of time according to most, but experts certainly acknowledged that marriage success has more to do with readiness than a simple function of time.Have you talked about what you both want from marriage? But I'm convinced that it's experiencing life together, through major occurrences (like a job layoff) and mundane activities (like Wal-Mart trips) that will allow us to decide whether we should get married.
Even with these studies telling us that staying the course in dating does seem to pay off in marriage, there are always exceptions to the rule.
Still, "Because there are other variables to consider such as family or origin dynamics, values, etc., I recommend couples wait a minimum of one year to marry," he says. D., author of , the "two year" rule is pretty sensible, but "different couples have very different circumstances.
Amodeo also acknowledges that readiness has a lot to do with each couple's unique situation. As Jane Austen writes, ' It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy: it is disposition alone.
Another more recent study published by researchers from Emory University following three thousand couples found that those who dated three or more years were 39 percent less likely to get divorced than those who dated less than a year.
Couples that dated for two years were 20 percent less likely to split.
Question: "What is the difference between dating and courting?