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Assessing Their Relationship Habits Attempting to Make a Commitment Evaluating the Way You Are Treated Looking for Noncommittal Signs Community Q&A Commitment phobia is the fear of being in and committing to a long-term relationship.
Dear Guru, I am looking for a therapist for my boyfriend and/or myself.
We've been together for the better part of 6 years and he suffers from what I believe- based mostly on the book "He's Scared She's Scared" and our history together- to have fairly severe commitmentphobia.
He probably has trouble trusting and depending on others although the truth might be that he is quite needy.
He may only know how to manage vulnerable feelings with distancing and avoidant behavi A relationship with someone who is commitment phobic can be quite challenging.
In this article you'll learn why he won't commit if he's really a commitment-phobe.