Such outbursts also train the partners to become gradually habituated to acts of violence. They also engage in long-term relationships, however, to gain more lasting control over certain more promising targets.
It’s nearly impossible to control strong human beings who have clear boundaries and a healthy self-esteem.
The following list is an attempt to outline the characteristics of ‘The Loser’ and provide a manner in which women and men can identify potentially damaging relationships before they are themselves severely damaged emotionally or even physically.” () 1. “If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property even once, drop them,” Carver advises.
As we’ve seen, Drew Peterson escalated the abuse of his partners.
If they were consistently mean or violent, psychopaths wouldn’t be able to hold on to their partners. Carver observes, “The Loser cycles from mean to sweet and back again.
The cycle starts when they are intentionally hurtful and mean.
You may be verbally abused, cursed, and threatened over something minor.
They may do so through overt criticism and by following them around when they meet with others, as Drew did to Stacy.
Sometimes they opt for more subtle manipulation, such as by covertly turning the victim against her own family and friends (and vice versa).
His assertion that he pampered Stacy by indulging her obsession with plastic surgery rings false.