Dating is a social element for the most part, so if you're not out there interacting it won't come easy.
I don't think you have to do a whole lot else to open the door.
I find that if you don't apply yourself, you will be sitting home without a date for years. The people that make the effort our the ones that will most likely succeed!
You don't have to be looking or hunting, but you do have to be out and about - approaching and talking to people you think are interesting or attractive (regardless of fear of whether or not they find YOU interesting or attractive).
When you want to go to Jamaica for the summer but are too lazy to go... After all, men are the ones that have to pursue the women. I believe it goes more like this: "when you're Not looking for someone, that is when you will meet someone"With that said, it does not necessarily mean if you meet someone unexpected it will turn into a long-tern relationship!
On a personal note, I have met women from time to time when I wasn't trying, however, I had no interest in most of those women.
Are emails and efforts to meet someone wasted energy? It's not so much letting things happen by accident as much as learning or being the best you that you can be.
If you use it as a game plan to find a relationship, well then, you are still looking.
For me, the only time a relationship happens is when I'm open to the option and truly interested in investing the time, effort, energy and emotion needed to attempt to forge something with someone. I do think when one looks to hard for too long, there is an element of desperation and that simply is not likely to produce very positive results. you can be "not looking" and have somebody contact you because they just happened to be the one looking and your profile just happened to catch their eye. sorry ps If you build it,they will come.....if not,don't worry cuz it wasn't meant to be for you.
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When you think about it if you are a social being and strive to be around people all the time then friendships and connections happen naturally - that's the best way.
There's a big difference between being open to dating and searching for a date. Years ago I read something that has stuck with me, and it went something like this: We captain our own little boats, and we can choose to sail them to and in happy (for us) waters, where we will encounter other little boats captained by like minds.
If you are not looking then how exactly do you expect someone to find you?