This might involve alcohol abuse, drug abuse, relationship abuse, or mental illness of some kind.
The point is, the marriage goes on ‘hold’ for a while as one or the other or both spouses get the help they individually need.
The intention was not to get rid of him and he knows it.
The intention is to teach him a lesson, or facilitate his maturity, or just give him a little time to think about what he has done before coming back at some indefinite future date. These are people who separate as a way station to divorce.
Now what is the difference between separating from your wife and leaving your wife? The technical aspects of whether or not he is separated or divorced are not really important. Apart from needing a little time to clear one’s head, a man who ‘leaves’ his wife is in a better position to start something new including a love relationship. Reason number two is, using separation to take a break.
This would mean your separated lover intends to remain in a perpetual separation.
If you want a full-time emotionally available man, he’s not the one. In the long-run it’ll be much less painful and far more fruitful.
Married couples who find it difficult to work out their marital problems in any other way may find this method better than permanently leaving their marriage.
Now some couples have difficulty because of individual problems one or both parties have that require a cure before the relationship can resume.
Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.