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We even scoured the top 400 most popular Ok Cupid profiles—the hottest people on the site in ten US cities—to see what their profile pics could tell the rest of us about attracting a date.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.
Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender…
Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.”This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
We also needed Ok Cupid to get permission from their users to enable us to publish those popular profile pics.