Thanks, Mark It's really going to depend on the women you meet. I didn't date while I was getting divorced, I felt it would complicate things unnecessarily.
Personally, I wouldn't date someone 20 years older than me, but there are women that will. I also would not, when dating, date someone who was not fully, legally divorced.
As to age I'm thinking mid 40s to 65 or so, I am more in need of brains and personality than relative youth, a woman under 40 would be the same age as my oldest son.
Here we go into life's 2nd oldest hunt, the first is for food.
Either way, the other spouse may become confrontational, may become unwilling to compromise and obstinate during the proceedings, or, at best, may become cold and distrustful of the dating spouse.
These feelings can cause property division to be more difficult, as well as other aspects of the divorce.
In addition, in some states the new relationship may be considered in the division of property or alimony determinations, so the dating spouse may not get as much as they want out of the divorce depending on the new partner's financial circumstances.
This is especially true if the dating spouse begins cohabitating with their new partner during the divorce process.
I'm starting the paperwork rolling in soon, my wife has used up 20 years of love and goodwill.Shortly after signing off I'm moving out, I've lined up a almost new furnished apartment in SF that my son recommended. I will probably quit claim my interest in our house in CT to my wife.Technically I'm married, emotionally I have a roommate, infrequently a friend with benefits two or three times a month.I am more than open to a long term relationship with or w/o minor children as long as the woman in question is not fighting regularly with her ex.I'm 61, look like a younger Richard Dreyfus, retired and never have to work as long as I don't chase women with expensive wants.
The other spouse, if they are not dating, may develop the idea that the dating spouse was committing adultery even if that idea hadn't surfaced before.