I felt a deep sense a rejection -- not personally, but on behalf of everyone at the bar.
Instead of interacting with the people around her, she chose to search for a companion elsewhere online.
Of course, others have worried about these sorts of questions before.
But the fear that online dating is changing us, collectively, that it's creating unhealthy habits and preferences that aren't in our best interests, is being driven more by paranoia than it is by actual facts.
I spoke with Rosenfeld to hear more about his research, to learn about the ways in which the rise of online dating is defining modern love, and to talk about the biggest misconceptions people have about online dating.
People used to marry in their early 20s, which meant that most dating that was done, or most courting that was done, was done with the intention of settling down right away.The patterns for the straight crowd looks like this (from here): The interesting contradiction is that OKCupid also asks people “Is interracial marriage a bad idea?” and, as with most liberals, the responses are overwhelmingly positive in the direction of “no, not a bad idea” (98% answering in the negative to the question).Then, when people read your profile, they can send you a “Message” within the site, indicating their interest in you.What the data show pretty clearly is that in figuring out who gets “messages” and “replies” – or traffic from potential dates – race matters.
I wondered to myself, is this what online dating has done to us?