When you put women on pedestals, you see them as an overly valued commodity and not as a regular human being, which further pushes her away and into the arms of another man who respects himself.
The more you improve yourself, the more high quality women will be interested in you. When you are with a woman, you are not in court trying to prove your case why this girl belongs with you okay. Women won’t tell you this but they actually prefer it this way. Women want a challenge since it makes you stand out unlike the rest of all the other men who have the scarcity mentality, they chase, they put her on a pedestal thus they bore her to death. Look, attraction isn’t something you decide upon—it’s an uncontrollable reaction to the right qualities. I’ve spoken with many very attractive women who are in relationships and married and most of them said at first they didn’t like their current boyfriend/husband when they first met. It may seem annoying at first, but the end result will be either you get the girl you want or you don’t and nothing more or less. Go after what you want in life and don’t let anything stop you. You must become a man who knows who he is, knows what he wants, and knows that he has the determination to get there. Maybe your mission is to just enjoy life to the fullest.
The guys that care too much lowers his own value and doesn’t create sentiments of allure because guys that care too much are telling women– through concern, through availability, through his being there too much- that he is in fact, not special or unique at all. He is more available than hydrogen, more common than dirt, and freer to talk to than the operator at Home Depot – but a smooth operator he is not.. She’ll run faster than Usain Bolt in the Olympics and any person who has respect for himself would do the same.
Wait a minute, so you’re telling me that I can’t play video games, drink booze, watch netflix and smoke who knows what everyday and be attractive to high quality women? To attain a relationship with the woman of your dreams, you need to create an ABUNDANCE MENTALITY.
Personality is the key to being good with women and dating. Deep down, women are attracted to your personality more-so than any other trait of a man.
When you build up your personality you simultaneously increase your attractiveness.
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