He provided me with three emails he wrote and I reworked them to be closer to what I would have written.
He was disappointed with the number of responses he was receiving (although I think it’s important to keep in mind there are many reasons you may not get responses, not just how you write your email) As I talk about in my guide, I don’t believe anyone has the dating/realtionships thing fully figured out.
Many people ask me, "How do I know when to ask someone on a date?
I've been emailing with them on my dating site, but I don't know when the time is right..." This is at once a very easy and very difficult question to answer, but let's give it a whirl! Your mileage will vary.) You write a first contact email.
Now, there are folks who claim that asking someone out on a date in a first or second email is the way to go. GUYS - more often than not, this will not work for you.
I cover my approach writing first emails with online dating in my post First Contact Email Examples.
Some of us have more experience or better insight than others but at the end of the day we’re all just making our best guesses.
With that in mind, I’m not saying his emails are bad.
I’m not going to change the general tone or point of the emails but I am trying to ensure he remains anonymous by changing some of the specifics.
It's short, sweet, personalized to their profile, and ends with a question for them to answer.
They write you back to say, "Thanks, but no thanks." Do not pass go, do not collect date. It's short, sweet, personalized to their profile, and ends with a question for them to answer.
In that article I also give some examples of how I would write some first emails based on several random dating profiles.
In this article, I will review some more first dating emails based on advice I gave to a reader.
You begin to chat with the person via IMs or phone.