If that happens, try to discuss with them just how much your late partner will always be in your mind.You might also gently suggest that he or she would not want you to grieve forever.All of these emotions are quite normal to have, but that does not make them easy to deal with.There are generally reckoned to be about seven stages of grief: Most grieving people experience at least some of these stages, but there is no set order or time limit for these feelings.Sometimes feelings revolve round sad or even horrible images of the last days or weeks of a partner's life.
Often they have all sorts of other unresolved emotions about the death of the partner, and the more they try to ignore them, the more they tend to surface. But they might be about anger that the person has gone, or about resentment that other people are still a couple and can look forward to an old age together. But eventually, we're quite likely to consider the possibility of romance again. Losing someone we love is one of the hardest things we have to face in life.But eventually, once we're ready, it's highly likely we'll consider the possibility of finding love again. In our own practice we have known men and women form new relationships well into their eighties.If your partner was dying for a long time, the chances are that you did loads of grieving before he or she actually stopped breathing.You are then more likely to feel ready for a new life than someone whose spouse died suddenly would be.
But there are no absolutes when it comes to people's feelings. In general, society still doesn't tend to condone new relationships that 'go public' before an interval of around one year.