"If you don't have any phone chemistry, then it's unlikely that there will be a spark in person," says Spira. Gonzaga, "and since you both probably have to get back to work, there's a specified end time if the date doesn't work out." Spira prefers dinner dates because the extended length can give you a deeper sense of your date's personality.If you show up and your date looks nothing like his photo––and this does happen––don't run screaming for the exit.The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.This is likely because an initial message serves mostly to make your profile available to the other person.Here, everything you need to know to find love on the World Wide Web. Your Profile Picture It can seem difficult to stand out in the vast sea of online daters; the best way to do so is by creating a great profile—and be sure to always include a photo.
While the pictures you post should be clear—giving the viewer an accurate glimpse of what you really look like—don't completely discount self-taken shots (the ones where you hold out your camera to take your own portrait).You need to show your interest right away; in the world of online dating you never know how many women one man has contacted, and how quickly the others may express their interest.If you contact someone and haven't heard back in a week, it's OK to send a second e-mail.And according to Spira, it should be sooner rather than later.Exchanging two or three e-mails is a good way to get a sense of each other's personality.
"I equate online dating to looking for a job," says Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.