Sure, acting unavailable might work at the casual dating stage, but what happens after that? Learn an instrument, a language, or take dancing lessons. 2) Set Boundaries Why would someone commit to you if they’re getting everything they want without the commitment?
How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.
Whatever your answer is, that’s the main cause of your behaviour.
If your answer is something like “to find the one”, you’re gonna come across as needy.
It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.
If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.
Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.
Holding off to avoid judgement is ridiculous – how can two people have sex at the same time but only one of them does it too soon?
Any guy who loses interest in you for having casual sex “too soon” is not worth having around.
If you emotionally vomit on someone and spill your whole life story during the first three dates, where’s the fun in that?
It’s like telling someone what’s in the present they’re about to unwrap. Focus on having fun, enjoy the mystery, and going from casual to serious will happen naturally.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).