This guy will need some time to adjust to the idea of a serious relationship. Perhaps you were well-prepared for a few snide remarks or some dirty looks thrown your way. On the other hand, did his ex throw you off kilter by being a complete psycho bitch?Were the live images of her personality even more terrifying than the ones you imagined?There’s no need to bring toys and shower them with gifts and over attention. If you’re trying too hard, they’ll know you’re afraid that they will dislike you and ruin your chances with their father.While your fears are recognized by every other woman in the world dating a divorced man, it’s still not a good idea to be overzealous when meeting his kids. If you meet his parents, his brothers or sisters, his best friend even…be calm and be yourself. Let’s say you and your guy are getting along fantastically! It’s a rare thing indeed when an ex-wife can be nice to a new girlfriend.
I can tell you that the kids are most willing to take out their pent up anger on you…the innocent new girlfriend who just happens to be proof that dad isn’t getting back together with mom. ” Don’t you remember how the twins acted towards dad’s new girlfriend (even though the new girlfriend was hideously rude and had a genuine dislike of kids…that’s not the point)?Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!Don’t meet the kids right away; give the relationship with you and your guy time to bloom first.Most divorcees come with miniature versions of themselves. Here are these little people with half your man’s DNA. His kids might look like him, but they’re still their own little people, and those people have feelings.
Even if this guy wants to be with you for the rest of his life, his kids might not be ready for it.